A day of flowers, heart shaped cards and strawberry crème filled chocolates. But let’s face it, sometimes you can get so engrossed in being parents that you forget that you are a couple as well.
As a mummy it becomes a lot more difficult to do something spontaneously romantic. Granted when my five year old puts his little hand against my ear and whispers ‘I have a secret, I made you a love card but don’t tell,’ I melt inside. Last year he made pink biscuits in class and ate half before he gave it to me. It was gross but adorable.
That’s what love is.
But for you and your other half, candlelight meals out on a school night, or worse, half term are as unlikely as a full night’s sleep.
Festive Lights have recently run a survey that has revealed that 63% of people would prefer to stay in rather than go out on Valentine’s. I wonder if these were parents? My vote would go to staying in because going out would mean brushing my hair but I am sure if offered many mums and dads would love to go out and have food that isn’t beige. Have a conversation that doesn’t revolve around potty training, or go to the cinema and watch something that does not involve a singing pig.
If you can get family members to babysit for a couple of hours then grab your shoes and go. But if you are at home,
Valentine’s Day does not have to be all or nothing. Do a little something, anything, light a couple of candles and put on a top that is not covered in porridge.
Be my Valentine?
Sometimes you can get too engrossed in being parents so that you forget that you are a couple as well.
Do you want some simple Valentines ideas? Have breakfast in bed together. Make heart shaped toast or heart shaped pancakes. Do you see a theme here? Get the children involved and fill the little ones bedroom with red balloons. Get crafty with these arty ideas. Make a gift to treasure.
Grab a pink pack of post-it notes and write all the reasons you love your partner and cover the mirror with them. Example of one of mine, ‘l love you for folding the laundry on Saturday.’ Because I do. I hate pairing socks.
Splash out on oysters and champagne when the kids are asleep, or macaroni cheese and cider. It’s the time that counts. Better yet, order a takeaway, it means no washing up. Watch a film. Play a game of cards, put on jazz. Everyone loves jazz.
Buy a card if that’s your thing. I got told today that a dad took his eight year old out to buy a card for his sons ‘girlfriend’. In all gorgeous innocence he picked an animal card with monkeys pulling funny faces. Inside it said, ‘I love your sex face.’
Lesson there, be careful which one you select and don’t let the kids choose.
What would my perfect gift be? A lie in, a bubble bath, a snickers. For your other half, send them a text in the day that you are thinking of them. Not just ‘can you pick up some milk after work, or the baby was sick on my arm again.’ If you want to get real creative check out this rather unusual gift guide, I literally laugh-sobbed reading it.
My one shining memory of Valentine’s Day when I was a child was my Grandad arriving with a bunch of flowers for my mother. When I got older he would bring one for me too. A simple gesture became to me, one of the most powerful. Whether you are of the opinion that Valentines is just too commercial and invented by Dairy Milk, or you go all out and smother yourself in pink sparkles remember that you are loved every day by your kids (even though some days you may not like each other). Also, that relationships can become more challenging when you become parents, try and appreciate each other every day (even though somedays you may not like each other!)
Love is not only for the 14th of February.
Disclaimer: This is a collaborative post.