Belonging To A Social Media Tribe. Digital Friendships #Tribe

Black text saying digital friendships over a background of red material hearts.

Online networking sites have changed the landscape of friendship.

I belong to a tribe, no mother I have not moved to Africa and not informed you. By some stroke of luck in my first few befuddled Twitter days I was enticed onto the lovely Katie’s @Tutumummy website by one of her numerous scrumptious recipes…because I love the cake.

There I saw her add for a tribal support network…I automatically thought, COOL do we get spears!?

MummyinaTutu #Tribal chat

That was just over 3 weeks ago.

I have never met these women (or potentially very empathetic 40 year old men living in their mum’s basements) but regularly I share with them my innermost feelings, struggles, successes and take joy in theirs. Their compassionate responses and support are unforced, without motive and given with no promise of reward. When children are sick at 2 am and you feel like you are the only one awake in the world, suddenly, you are not. You can see your own hardships reflected in your tribesters and only want to offer comfort and words of reassurance. There is a regular abundance of witticisms about wine and cake.

They are just like me; parents who are battling through the parenting jungle that are exhausted, with keen humours and are knee deep in poo and nursery rhymes.

In a conversation the other day someone asked me if I thought online friendships are real friendships?

Of course they can be. I considered what does the term ‘friend’ mean to me and found the quote below impeccably defined my thoughts.

‘Good friends help you to find important things when you have lost them… your smile, your hope, and your courage.’ -Doe Zantamata

The social media world can terrify you as a parent, with countless beautiful images of idyllic looking children and celebratory posts of achievement and success, all with a romanticised pink filter. They remind me parenting can be amazing, an adventure, as long as I do not start with the comparisons. Comparisons are the enemy of sanity. Do not panic, or deem yourself a ‘sodding awful mother’. There are also snaps of kids cutting up curtains, messages from mums sitting on the toilet hiding from their little ones and lots of accounts of parenting mishaps that you can nod and say yup I do that all the time. THANK GOD.


Grab a cuppa & have a chat…


With the internet, like in the real world, you can be disappointed or misled and social media can contribute to feelings of loneliness and inadequacy. I am also not saying you should replace all human contact with WhatsApp. What I am saying is you can find community, unity, and friendship as real as any you have in the offline world.

I am so lucky to have many amazing friends to support me in the non-digital world too, that I can access without a laptop or my I phone. But for those mums who are feeling lost and isolated, who may not have people they can reach out to. Get online and find us, we all have profile pictures of small beings and have airbrushed our eye bags.

A tribe of baby wearing, Lego building, parenting warriors.


Check out my lovely parenting buddies profile pages here!!tribal-matters/yc1dl


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  1. April 22, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    Jade this actually brought tears to my eyes – I could have written every word! I will admit that I was sceptical at first because, contrary to perhaps how I come across on my blog, I’m a really private person – no, I am! But this tribe has been incredible – I never feel lonely – i feel I’m part of something that understand me – I’ve never met such a non judgemental group of girls and for that I thank Katie for forming the tribe – am super proud to be part of this. I love the way that there is always some chat to but no offence taken if we are away from chat for a few hours – can’t imagine never being part of the tribe – just awesome and all tribesters totally rock it for me. Thank you for writing lovely xx

    • April 22, 2016 / 4:58 pm

      I was definatley nervous but everyone is so generous with their tips and comments it is so lovely. You have written such a lovely description, totally feel the same xx

  2. April 22, 2016 / 4:37 pm

    Oh Jade this is fabulous. The tribe has transformed how I look at on-line friendships. It is hard to explain the bond we’ve made in the last few weeks but you did it so well. It is lovely to know you lot are there to give that virtual hug and a often needed different perspective. I qualify to hubby by saying my bloggy friends. I hope we all do get to meet!

    • April 22, 2016 / 4:50 pm

      Road trip to you, I am a fan of tulips!!!!! Thank you lovely I just wanted to try and attempt expressing my gratitude to all of you lovely ladies xxx

  3. April 22, 2016 / 4:59 pm

    Ahh think you’ve expressed how we all feel, Jade. I did not expect to find this wonderful group of lovely women that I would come to call friends. I’m so happy Katie wrote that first post that we all responded to and how the tribe has grown since. What a fabulous bunch of people you are!! You all make me smile and laugh often and I find myself wanting to share things that happen – both good and bad- with you all. I feel very lucky to be part of this! Thanks for writing such a beaut post, bet lots of people will join us after this!! Ellen xx

  4. April 22, 2016 / 5:58 pm

    Jade that was so lovely, you made me want to cry. You don’t know how glad I am that I posted that ad that day. I feel truly blessed to have all you wonderful ladies in my life. Without you all I think I’d have crumbled.
    Love to all tribesters old, new and yet to come xx

    • April 22, 2016 / 7:10 pm

      Yay, bring on new Tribesters, you leave your phone for one minute 2012 unread messages…never felt so loved. I am glad you did it and glad we can be there for you xx

  5. April 22, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    What a wonderful post Jade! I had only been blogging a couple of weeks and was feeling lost and lonely in the world of social media. I stumbled upon #tribalchat on a Tuesday evening and Katie said to send a bio so I thought why not? I even joined the DM chatter though I was terrified of making a fool of myself. But soon I realised that these wonderful people were supportive and kind and encouraging and I felt like maybe I could do it. Without all of you I would have quit before I had begun. Joing the tribe was the best blogging decision I made 🙂

  6. April 22, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    Did someone mention wine and cake? I’m there! Seriously, this is spot on – I’ve connected with some wonderful people in a relatively short time of blogging. I usually feel like I’m stumbling around in the dark a bit at parenting (much the same with blogging!) But a comment on a post or a reply to a tweet can give you a much-needed lift and reassurance and remind you that you’re not alone and not doing half bad. I would love to join the tribe. #familyfun

    • April 23, 2016 / 2:17 pm

      We love new members if you check out Tutu mummies website on the post page and give her a holla, we also have tribal chat on Tuesdays which involves lots of laughing and lots of DM chatter daily, sharing each others posts and blog tips xxx

      • April 28, 2016 / 8:42 pm

        Thank you. Had hoped to join in with tribal chat this week but life got in the way… hopefully I’ll make it next week x

        • April 29, 2016 / 7:48 am

          We are very easy going so whenever you can jump in in great, there are a few of us so its a bit chaotic but grab a glass of wine and we always love new members!x

  7. April 22, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    I kept seeing #tribalchat and wondered what it was all about, so thank you for explaining! It sounds like a lovely community. Us girls have got to stick together! Are you accepting new members?! #familyfun

    • April 23, 2016 / 2:19 pm

      We always are it is an ever extending tribe, that chats a lot, has a lot of giggling, talk of cake and sharing of blohg and parenting tips. If you go to Tutu mummies website that I have put a link to and give her a message you can check out more info and tribal chat and see if you want to join the choas :):) xx

  8. April 23, 2016 / 7:12 am

    Oh you…lovely sentiments.
    Being part of it has also made me think about my blog and my online presence (I mean seriously, have you seen my booming FB stats!? Shut up Lucy) and all that other stuff so it’s not only lovely but very useful too! Xxx

    • April 23, 2016 / 2:20 pm

      Lucy you are a Facebook machine…lol I havnt even managed to get my page up and running yet ;/ been too busy with sorting linkies and eating cake!!!Much digital love xxx

  9. April 23, 2016 / 3:01 pm

    Jade… I love it! I certainly could not have put it any better. You guys are amazing, supportive and so very talented. I feel very lucky to have you all just a little message away. Katie thank you for being brilliant and having the idea to form this tribe. Jade, thank you for sharing it and I hope we get to meet soon xx

  10. twotinyhands
    April 23, 2016 / 7:07 pm

    This is great Jade. I think we were all drawn to the tribe for similar reasons. Online is such a feature in today’s world itd be a shame not to harness its power. So glad you joined in too! X

  11. min1980
    April 23, 2016 / 7:22 pm

    What a fab post. Beautifully written hymn to online friendships. I must admit I find it hard to keep up with all the chats, but it’s lovely to have friends in the blogging world!

  12. April 24, 2016 / 6:19 pm

    I love this post! It’s truly an honour to know such a lovely and talented group of women. Everyone is so open, honest and ready to offer advice and support at all hours of the day and night. Go tribesters!

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